Hello and welcome to my blog! I just finished a 21 day self confidence challenge and I wanted to share what I did with you.
I’ve struggled with self confidence for as long as I can remember. I was always the shy girl, easily influenced. One praise would build me up and one critique would tear me down. My need for attention and validation stemmed from my lack of a positive self image.
A few years ago, I started working on my self improvement. I identified my values, my strengths and weaknesses, and I began building myself up. I looked at my hobbies, figured out what I was good at and began sharpening my skills. I’m still learning to practice self love, self care, and to feel worthy just because I exist. If I tie my worth to my achievements like I used to then I will be chasing one prize after another. I still do this in the form of challenges and goals I set for myself, but at least I’m evaluating myself and not waiting for someone else to evaluate me and approve of me.
So besides reading self help books and positive affirmations, I began doing challenges on the “21 days challenge app”. Today I finished the self confidence challenge and the positive affirmations challenge. I will share the affirmations another time.
21 days self confidence challenge
Unfollow all social media accounts that makes you feel insecure about yourself. I actually do this every once in a while.
Work on accepting compliments rather than denying them today (and always). I used to struggle with this a lot but I’m getting much better.
Be conscious about your posture. Keep standing tall all day. My grandpa tells me this all the time. I unconsciously hunch my back.
Do something you loved to do as a child. For me this is coloring.
Do something challenging today, remember that we don’t ‘grow’ when we’re comfortable. I don’t remember what I did that day that was challenging but I remember reading this and knowing exactly what to do.
Write down 10 things you love about yourself. I actually shared this as a blog post here.
Say yes to something you normally wouldn’t. I don’t remember what it was though. It was probably something I normally told my son no for (I say no a lot).
Implement a new healthy habit (you can start another one from the app). I started a gratitude challenge from the app.
Speak up when you’ve got something to say. Assertiveness goes hand in hand with self confidence.
Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Law of attraction. What you focus on grows.
Work on improving your skills on something you love to do or that you would like to start doing. I’ve been practicing using canva for about a month now. I’ve been using it for 6 months actually but I’ve been giving it more time and energy recently.
Write a list of all if your accomplishments and keep adding to it in the future. Done.
Do a quick workout, take a shower, get ready and put on an outfit that makes you feel great. Exercise and dressing up increase self confidence.
Go out (to the cinema/shopping/watch the sunset) by yourself. Here’s a funny story. I went downstairs to take a time lapse of the sunset and I missed it. At least I got the points for trying.
Reach out to an old friend. I texted this person who used to be very close to me at university but since we graduated, she only texts me if I text her 1st. Otherwise, she’d go years without talking to me.
Come up with positive thoughts for every negative one. I’m not sure I completely succeeded in this one, but I definitely made an effort to think more positively that day.
Give someone a good piece of advice.
Do a workout you enjoy.
Work on small things. Small little achievements make you feel good. That’s what I’ve been doing since November 2020.
Pause and reflect on something before you act, instead of reacting impulsively. I tried with my son and will keep on doing it more often.
Be authentic and embrace your uniqueness. Life is not a competition 🙂
To do this challenge, go to: https://21dayschallengeapp.com/app/challenge
You don’t even have to do the challenge if you don’t want to. You can take this as things to do to increase your self confidence and pick one when you are having a bad day and need to feel better about yourself.