Three people I’m grateful for

The men in your life shape who you are. They are the ones who teach you what you think you deserve and what to expect from other men. So if you have an abusive father, you grow up thinking this is love, and you normalize abuse in your relationships. You may even become abusive to your partner and children. It takes a lot of self-awareness and reparenting yourself to break the cycle of abuse.

Despite everything I’ve been through in my life, I’m grateful for the men in my life. They taught me so much and gave me a lot. The most 3 men I’m grateful for in my life are:

My dad

The man who raised me, taught me right from wrong, made my education and fitness a priority. He wasn’t perfect, but he tried. He was and still is a very tender father. He taught me that I deserve love. He always complimented me on my looks, especially my eyes. He made me feel special and unique.

My eldest brother

My protector. He carried me up 6 flights of stairs when I hurt my knees. He carried the bags of clothes I wanted to donate. We had so many conversations about life over the years. He helped me launch my books on Amazon. He helped me set up a bank account. He encourages me to be the best I can be. In his eyes I’m successful. He tells me and shows me that he’s always got my back. He isn’t perfect, but he tries. He is a good brother.

My husband

Those who have followed me on the blog for a while know I’ve gone through so many ups and downs with my husband, and we still have many issues to work on. But despite everything, I still choose him. Loving someone is hard. With your family, you have no choice. You can’t divorce your family. If they’re too toxic, you can set boundaries, but that is a talk for another post. When you are married, you marry the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s a difficult decision deciding whether to leave or to stay, and you don’t know if you made the right choice until it’s too late. For now, I choose to stay, and I’m grateful for having my husband in my life. He slows me down when I’m too impulsive, tolerates my mood swings (though that means he dismisses my feelings when I’m rightfully angry about something but I’m currently reading The dance of anger to help me navigate that problem), helps me with dishes and laundry when I’m too tired, and most of all he works hard to support us financially so that I don’t have to work (I’m still trying to become a freelance editor and writer and sell my books and open a shop in order to become financially independent or at least do something for myself). He’s not perfect but neither am I.

Who are the people you are most grateful for and why?

9 responses to “Three people I’m grateful for”

      1. Pleasure 😍

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  1. Great post dear. Makes me reflect on the 2 most important men in my life…..Definitely my father, he is my biggest support systemπŸ˜πŸ’–, and my husband – the reason for all my happiness as well as anger πŸ˜πŸ˜„πŸ’—

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    1. Thanks 😁 yeah husbands bring out the best and the worst in us πŸ€ͺ

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  2. Lovely post. It does make me consider how much we are shaped by the men in our lives. Truly for better or worse…

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  3. I enjoyed your nostalgia-inducing post, and it reminds me of the great men in my history. It also strikes me as kind of edgy and courageous these days to admit men can help anyone. So thank you.

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed reading it!

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