Hello and welcome to my blog! I’m supposed to be doing housework now, but I just had to finish up this post. I started this challenge a month ago, so it took me 30 days to do 13 out of 21 of these family time activities. There are some I did with my son, some with my siblings, some with my whole family, but only one (the family photo) in which my husband reluctantly participated. It makes me sad that he won’t participate in any family activities. I used to ask him to but now I don’t bother. When you get rejected 100 times, you learn to walk away. It still hurts though.
Anyway, I did this challenge because my son is driving me crazy. He has problems seeing me as an authority. He thinks he doesn’t have to listen to me. He fights me on everything. He attacks me physically. He has no respect for me. We used to be able to hug it out but I can feel building resentment between the both of us. He does hug me sometimes, but the pattern I noticed is that he is doing all this partly to get his dad’s attention, and it works, but not in my favor. I usually end up getting yelled at for provoking my son, instead of my son being yelled at for not brushing his teeth, for example. Anyway, I wish I could say this challenge solved our issues, but it did help a little bit.
Day 1: Look at old family photos or watch old videos.
We looked at pictures from 2016 when my son was 1 year old. He was more interested in how his dad and cousin looked than in how he looked. I shared some funny memories associated with the photos. We had a good laugh.
Day 2: Play a card game together.
We played Uno. It was fun.
Day 3: Go for a walk/hike together.
I went for a walk with 2 of my sisters. It was nice.
Day 4: Eat dinner together as a family.
We always eat lunch together with my parents and siblings on Saturday, as a family. Lunch here is like dinner in Anerica.
Day 5: Take a family photo.
I took some funny selfies with my son, then decided to take a picture with my husband and son. My husband rarely agrees to get his picture taken but this time he obliged. It was a nice photo.
Day 6: Do yoga together.
He started doing yoga with me but found my yoga routine too hard and bailed.
Day 7: Family movie and pizza night.
Day 8: Draw portraits of each other.
I tried to get my son to do this with me but he wasn’t interested.
Day 9: Cook dinner together.
My son doesn’t enjoy helping me with dinner, but I made cinnamon rolls with my mom and my son helped a bit so that counts, right?
Day 10: Play ‘would you rather’ together.
I have an app on my phone called This or That. We played it for 20 minutes. It was very interesting.
Day 11: Do a puzzle together.
My son doesn’t really enjoy puzzles. I tried to get him to do a puzzle with me but he refused, over and over.
Day 12: Bake a cake or cookies for your family.
I baked chocolate chip cookies for my sons birthday party.
Day 13: Plan a family picnic.
I wish I could have a family picnic. The last time we had one was 7 years ago when my son was 2 months old and my husband wouldn’t even let me take our son because his immunity was low. I’ve been trying to have one ever since, with no success. I went on a picnic with my in-laws 4 years ago and my son was there, but not my husband. I hope we can have a family picnic this spring, but I don’t want to get my hopes up too much.
Day 14: Play video games together.
I have an app on my phone that has 2 player games. We played air hockey and chess on it together, my son and I.
Day 15: Sing karaoke songs together.
My son doesn’t like singing, but we did silly sing together, so I hope that counts. I know the point is to spend time together, but it’s hard because because my son is having rage problems and so far I’m reacting badly to it. So far I’m getting stuck in fight or flight mode.
Day 16: Take an after-dinner walk together.
I wanted to, but the weather hasn’t been great lately. Plus, my knees and foot have been hurting.
Day 17: Play a board game together.
We played monopoly together. It was fun.
Day 18: Plan a trip or vacation.
I wish. Last trip to Turkey was in 2019.
Day 19: Try geocaching together.
I don’t even know what that is.
Day 20: Cook a special dinner for your family.
I cooked my son’s favorite meal, koussa (zucchini) stuffed with rice and minced meat.
Day 21: Create a family bucket list.
My husband doesn’t do activities with us. He doesn’t take us out, so I will not disillusion myself that making a family bucket list will change things. It’s a hopeless situation but maybe one day my bucket list will happen.
If you want to do this challenge, go to: https://21dayschallengeapp.com/app/challenge