Storytime: I love you even on the days you give me a hard time

Hello and welcome to my blog. I’m going to try to keep this short, in between trying to get my son to brush his teeth and go to bed. It’s almost 10 pm now on a Wednesday and im exhausted.

I had a productive day today. Yesterday I made a TikTok account again (I made a personal account before then suddenly deleted it because I was wasting too much time on it) but this time I made it for my gumroad shop “Obsessed with mugs”. I haven’t posted all my products yet but most of my posts got a lot of views compared to the personal ones I used to post. Today my focus was on reading blogs. I binge-read blogs for 160 minutes (according to the YourHour app). I also posted on Instagram (both personal and business accounts).

I’m a bit behind on my novella and converting blogs to podcasts, but that’s not what im writing about. I wanted to share a parenting moment with you that im proud of. Today, my son gave me a hard time with his studies. He wouldn’t begin his homework until 5 pm (he is supposed to start at 4 since he usually doesn’t start eating lunch until 3 pm and takes a long time to eat) and didn’t finish until 9 pm. I gave him breaks of course, but I could tell he was not in the mood to study.

In general, my son doesn’t like to study. He is really smart but very lazy. He prefers sports and art because they’re fun. Anyway, I usually give him screentime after homework, and if he is well-behaved during the day, he gets a game download. When he gets a good grade, he gets a marshmallow. When he gets straight As on his report card, he gets a toy.

Today was hard. I was very frustrated and I alternated between telling him I’ll get him a bagel if he studies well and yelling at him that he won’t get screentime if he doesn’t finish his homework quickly. However, when he finally finished his homework, I called him over for a hug. He kept pulling back from me, probably feeling bad about not getting screentime or a game download, but I insisted on a hug.

Then I told him to look at me because I wanted to tell him something important. I told him

“I want you to know, even on the days that you give me a hard time, I still love you the same. I know you had a long hard day but you still pushed yourself and studied. I’m proud of you for studying even when you didn’t feel like it. Know that even when you’re having a bad day, I’m here for you and I love you”.

It’s 10:11 pm now and my son finally brushed his teeth but still didn’t go to bed. It’s been a long day. There’s a lot I didn’t mention about my day, but then again, this isn’t a diary. I just wanted to share this small win and remind you to be graceful with your children and let them know you love them just the same on a good day and on a bad day. I was raised with conditional love. I must behave to be loved. I must get good grades to be loved. I grew up tying my worth to my achievements and productivity. I don’t want to pass that on to my son.

He just went to bed at 10:21 pm…

5 responses to “Storytime: I love you even on the days you give me a hard time”

  1. That’s such an important message to give children.

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  2. You gave him the perfect message.

    Liked by 1 person

      1. You’re welcome

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