Parenting moments

Is it wrong that I don’t share much of the news with my son? Maybe because I don’t watch the news myself, but also because I couldn’t explain it if I wanted to. I also don’t want him to feel cynical of humanity like I have become.

I have told my son about the wars in Palestine and Syria. I have told him about Putin trying to invade Ukraine and I explained why. He understands that many people have a thirst for power and that it’s bad. I showed him the world map and we spoke about many countries.

He is very curious. When I showed him the map of the world he said: wow 😮 the world is big ❗ I said: yes it is. Today he heard his dad watching the news and said to me: Mom! There’s a war in Russia! I said: I know.

Last night after I yelled and screamed because he wouldn’t put his pajamas on, I seethed for 2 hours while he did the bedtime routine (dinner, brush teeth, bathroom) with his dad without a fuss. I felt like a failure. I almost cried.

Then he hugged me and it all melted away. I told him he was a great kid, but I just didn’t have much patience. I asked him why he wasn’t listening to me but listened to his dad. I take things personally. I can’t help it. I don’t remember what we talked about but it was very heartfelt. Every night, despite him not listening to me, we have a heart-to-heart. I tell him how much I love him. We talk. We hug. It’s nice. He is a smart kid, even if he treats me like a sister sometimes. He does respect me. I see that. He trusts me. He just doesn’t take me seriously most of the time.

Today is a new day. I’ve been up since 9 am but I don’t want to be up. My son just called me out on my excessive chocolate eating and instead of making me want to stop, it just made me feel bad about myself. He told me if I keep eating chocolate, I’m going to end up with cavities and my husband is going to have to spend a lot of money, in this economy, to fix my teeth. His words, not mine. He is 7, might I remind you.

I’m supposed to be the role model of patience and healthy eating and exercising and sleeping early. Hmph. Anyway, I have a long to-do list today, including writing the Win/win blog post. It’s 4 pages long so I will try to have it published Wednesday. No promises. It’s hard to get anything done with my son at home the whole time.

I’m both failing and thriving at being a mother, I guess. Nobody is perfect. I’m using the self-care app. It’s helping. Here is the past week’s report on self-care and feelings:

Pretty helpful app for self-reflection.

Have a nice Monday. How was your mood the past week? How about your motivation? I can’t recommend this app enough.

12 responses to “Parenting moments”

  1. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not telling your son much about the news at that age.

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  2. It seems like most kids I know listen more to their dads than they do to their moms, just my opinion 😁. Also when it comes to the news, I think at your sons age your making the right decision.

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    1. Thanks. Yes, my son looks up to his dad a lot. My husband is a good father and husband and I like the relationship they have. I just wish he would drive me crazy every night and every morning and during the day 😆

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  3. haha. i enjoyed reading this. he is being who he his. he is good kid. you’ll be all fine. it just a emotion. trust me. it will fade away soon

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  4. It’s like reading my mind and heart. So sorry of what you are going through. It is a hard battle to carry day in, day out. Some days are better, others, not so much. As for our Children, truly, they are the light and Hope of our world. My Son now knows about my Depression and my battles in mental health because of People, Work, Extended Family, etc. I try to be honest with him of what real life adulthood is and that the circumstances and experiences both from people and life can be sad and heartbreaking. He gets it, and does so much more to make my mental health days be more fun and meaningful. He even shares his teachers who also takes time off for mental health days with me to let me know, I’m not the only one. I’m doing more nature therapy and doing what I love therapy. It is helping that I stopped taking antidepressants for 10 days now. Stay strong my Friends. Things do get better. For now, we need all the hugs and love we can get. Take care.

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    1. Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment. I’m glad your son gets it now and helps you and I’m glad you’re doing better. I hope I start feeling better soon. My sugar addiction and insomnia are telltale signs I’m not doing okay.

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  5. A seven year-old boy isn’t ready to hear about these types of “news” stories. He should be allowed to enjoy the innocence of childhood for as long as God designed it. Your job is to protect his heart and to teach and model developmentally-appropriate stuff.

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  6. Cautiously filtering your sons media is worthy and healthy. As he is emotionally maturing you can slowly expose him to more. Being a mom is a tough and beautiful job.

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    1. Thank you for reading and commenting. I agree.

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