Join me on a 21 day journey to self growth

Hello and welcome to my blog! I’m still here, still depressed, but today was the last day of the self-growth challenge I’m doing, so I had to share. I didn’t do everything in the challenge but I will try to do the rest when I can. The sun is setting. My best friend contacted me today. My son is at soccer practice and my husband is busy so I have had some time to think.

The one thought that keeps running through my head everytime I try to add a product to my shop or work on my novella or edit my new book is “what’s the point”. I did the DSM assessment test (I do it once a month to track my depression levels) and it came out moderately severe. I already knew that. Anyway, maybe this self growth challenge will help. And the sunset can’t hurt either.

Day 1

Declutter your social media (uninstall apps you don’t use or need and unfollow people that are detrimental to your mental health).

I followed many people on Instagram. I also uninstalled a few apps.

Day 2

Try to do some physical activity every day, even if it’s a short walk.

I’ve been walking a lot lately. I even exercised today.

Day 3

Set a goal for the next month and break it down into steps.

My goal for November is to be healthy and fit.

Day 4

Go to bed an hour earlier (sometimes you need an extra hour of sleep to reset your energy levels).

I have been sleeping earlier since my son started school. On the weekdays, I’m waking up at 5 am and going to bed between 9 and 10 pm.

Day 5

Write a gratitude list. This is so important for personal growth.

I did this on the 1st of November. I found it less distracting to write on pen and paper because I have too many apps on my phone.

Day 6

Do something out of your comfort zone that you always wanted to try. Good things happen when you step out of your comfort zone.

I don’t know what they meant by this. Everytime I leave my house, I’m stepping out of my comfort zone.

Day 7

Start learning something new (a language/instrument/fun facts/history/sewing/etc).

I started taking an SEO course, but then turned out it was a 24-hour trial so the next day it was gone. Does that count?

Day 8

Practice positive self-talk. Go in front of the mirror and list down everything you love about yourself. Be kind to your body and soul.

I didn’t say these in front of the mirror, but I wrote them down. It was really difficult for me to do because I realized that I don’t love myself.

Day 9

Write your biggest dream and how you can achieve it.

My biggest dream is to become a best-selling author. I don’t feel like retyping what I wrote, especially since my son just got back home.

Day 10

Journal your thoughts and dreams.

I don’t like to journal, and I don’t know if you can call my blogging journaling.

Day 11

Pick one side hustle and work on it (start a blog/learn a new language/take up a new hobby/etc).

I already have a blog, podcast, 11 books, a novella, and 3 online shops. I think I have enough side hustles that I’m working on.

Day 12

Go out and have a solo date (go watch the sunset/eat at your favorite restaurant/buy yourself flowers/etc).

I tried that once before. Not a big fan.

Day 13

Spend less time on social media today.

I naturally spend less time on my phone on the weekends. Lately, I’ve been spending less and less time on social media, since the glitch on Instagram took out my shop Instagram accounts.

I spent 17 minutes a day on average on Instagram in the past week!

Day 14

Create a savings account (and make sure that you put aside a specific amount every month).

I’d have to earn money 1st in order to create a savings account.

Day 15

Wear something today that makes you feel good and empowering.

I wore a shirt that said “I have sunshine in my soul today” even though I felt like sh**.

Day 16

Write down all the things you want to improve.

I had previously written all the goals and habits I want to work on. I would also add that I want to start submitting parenting blog posts to websites that would pay for submissions.

Day 17

Watch a new documentary (e.g. Heal/Minimalism/Happy).

My husband had the TV on a documentary about Africans doing a rain dance.

Day 18

Meditate for 10 minutes (try to do this every day, it’s so important for your mental health).

I’m so bad at meditating. I don’t know why it’s so hard for me.

Day 19

Declutter and organize your space. A cleaning home relaxes you and boosts your mood.

I organized my drawer.

Day 20

Listen to a motivational podcast (e.g.Manifestation Babe/Rise/Earn your Happy/And She Rises).

I listened to Pick the Brain podcast.

Day 21

Give someone a compliment. The outward expression of giving someone a compliment not only makes them feel good but also helps build your own confidence.

I don’t know what to say, or who to say it to.

Do this challenge with me:

Which challenge should I do next? Tell me in the comments.


20 responses to “Join me on a 21 day journey to self growth”

  1. Meditating is super hard

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    1. It is! I even downloaded apps to help me. I try them for a few days or weeks and then I can’t anymore.

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      1. Do your own thing. I sit on my pillow, put my headphones on, and I just listen to a sing, tuning out everything else. It works. I also do restorative yoga every other week. It’s amazing

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      2. Reading novels for 30 minutes before bed helps. I guess that can be my “meditation”

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  2. I’m not good at the meditation apps either, unless it’s five minutes or shorter. I like many things on your 21 day journey. Good for you to take on this challenge.

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  3. Well done. It’s always a good feeling when we finish up a commitment. I’m sorry you’re so severely depressed – do you have meds? Additionally, I absolutely think that blogging can be journaling.

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    1. Thanks. No, I don’t take any meds. I m still trying to manage this on my own. The thing is, my husband won’t let me see a therapist (mental health is taboo here) and I can afford to see one online because I don’t have a job. I will try better help as soon as sales reach 100$ a month in profit. So far I’m getting 30$ a year…

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      1. I’m sorry about the mental health stigma. That makes things so much worse. And the lack of money is often a barrier to good things, especially recovery πŸ’”

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      2. Thanks. Hopefully, things will get better once my businesses kick off.

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  4. Where do you find these challenges? As far as mediation goes I have been trying to figure it out for a long time lol. The videos just don’t seem to work for me. I have been kinda doing my own thing lately where I sit in my room with my eyes closed, legs crossed, and do some grounding and breathing techniques. Sorry your feeling so down, wish I could help cheer you up.

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    1. I downloaded an app called 21 days challenges. The link is in this blog post. Meditation videos don’t work for me either. Meditation apps work occasionally. I do sit and take deep breaths often and stretch, but I don’t count it because it can’t be digitally tracked.


  5. This sounds like a wonderful way to get into a more positive mindset.

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    1. And hope you feel better, sorry to hear you’re still feeling depressed.

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      1. You’re very welcome πŸ’–

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    2. It helped a little bit, albeit temporarily.

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