Know your strengths and weaknesses

I think we can all agree that nobody is perfect, right?

And that while some people are naturally more patient, others are naturally more social, and so on.

We each have a set of characteristics that make certain things easier for us, but other characteristics that hold us back. The things that help us are strengths and the ones that hold us back are weaknesses.

If you’ve ever played a video game or watched the movie Jumanji (the one with The Rock), you’d see that each player has a set of strengths like speed, strength, etc and a few weaknesses.

In real life, the characteristics defined as strengths and weaknesses are a bit different than those of video games, but important nonetheless.

The important thing is that you need to be aware of your strengths so you can use them to your advantage, and of your weaknesses so that you can work on them.

I’ll give you an example of myself. One of my strengths is that I’m good at expressing myself in writing (not in conversation) and I use this strength by writing poems, blogs and books to better benefit people and give them advice and spread positivity. Of course, this is a strength I work on regularly. I read a lot to expand my knoledge and my vocabulary and I even took a writing course once and I read tips about how to be a better writer. Just because something is a strength of yours, it doesn’t mean you don’t have to hone it. Hone means when you sharpen a knife or tool to make it sharper. I just looked up the meaning because I have no idea how I knew that word or how I knew what it would mean in context, but reading obviously taught me that word.

A weakness of mine, among many others, is that I have very low tolerance for other’s mistakes. I’m really hard on myself. I don’t hold myself to perfection, not anymore anyway, but I’m always assessing myself and others and it makes me furious when someone knows something is wrong and they do it anyway, even if that someone is my 5 year old son. I have to constantly remind myself that he is just 5 and has the right to make mistakes and that I must model tolerance to teach him to be tolerant (I learned this from the book Character is the Key that I’m currently reading).

Side note: I took a course in Goal Setting once (a few years ago) and they said part of setting goals strategy is knowing your strengths and weaknesses. There is actually something called SWOT analysis which means you analyze your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats to achieving your goals.

Below is a list of strengths and weaknesses for you to go through to figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are.

Strengths

  • Enthusiasm.
  • Trustworthiness.
  • Creativity.
  • Discipline.
  • Patience.
  • Respectfulness.
  • Determination.
  • Dedication.
  • Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence.Courage.
  • Wisdom.
  • Justice.
  • Temperance.
  • Transcendence.
  • Communication Skills.Flexibility.
  • Quick learner.
  • Tolerance.
  • Decision making skills.
  • Emotional Intelligence. Team Player Attitude.
  • Growth Mindset.
  • Openness to Feedback.
  • Adaptability.
  • Active Listening.
  • Work Ethic.
  • Empathy. Fairness.
  • Focus.
  • Futuristic.

Weaknesses

  • Reckless
  • Naive
  • Unserious (can’t take anything seriously)
  • Arrogant
  • Timid (shy)
  • Rigid
  • Overthinking
  • Stubborn
  • Passive
  • Unproductive
  • Exhausting (those people that suck the energy out of you)
  • Poor team player
  • Unrealistic (head in the clouds)
  • Self-absorbed
  • Illogical
  • Vain
  • Greedy
  • Lacking empathy
  • Blunt
  • Impulsive
  • Bossy
  • Addictive
  • Aimless
  • Unassertive (passive aggressive)
  • Unambitious
  • Untolterant
  • Deceitful
  • Unstructured
  • Cynical

Asking a trusted friend or taking a personality test will help you better determine your strengths and weaknesses. The most reliable personality test is the 16 personalities test and it’s totally free online.

You can print this and fill out your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. Stick it where you can see it the most, whether that’s your office or fridge.

If there are any terms you didn’t understand, feel free to comment and I’ll explain.

Here’s a sticker ’cause you woke up (a poem)

Every single day
I wake up from my sleep
I wonder to say
When people look at me
There’s so much in my brain
There’s so much they can’t see
And everything I say
Is not what I mean
I tend to complain
When people ask me

How are you doing?
Are you happy?
The truth is yes
But in a moment I won’t be
If I give it much thought
I think about my problems
I love what I’ve got
But think how to solve them

I feel life’s unfair
But I know it’s not perfect
People don’t seem to care
That I feel I’m not worth it
Because all the things I share
I crave more feedback
Like I’m waiting for there
To be an award stack

Like here you go take a sticker ’cause you woke up
You cleaned the bathrooms though you didn’t feel like it
You didn’t cry today or break down, you showed up
Here’s a round of applause for your bravery

You ate a fruit though you wanted chocolate cake
You didn’t dwell on all your past mistakes
So here’s a medal for not overthinking
Don’t say a word, I know what you’re thinking

You may have picked a fight or two
Just to get you into the mood
But you made up for it by coloring
And feeding your kid and have him studying

You woke up early had a nice conversation
You spread some wisdom and advice
You smiled even though your heart’s in pain still
So here’s a hug for trying to be nice

I know this year has been tough and long
I know our plans and resolutions all went wrong
And even though some people flex on the internet
I want you to know that I know you’ve tried your best

So be yourself
Unapologetically
Love yourself
So unconditionally
Treat yourself
And be the best that you can be
Because no one else
Can be the you that you can be

Forgive yourself
For all the days you fell apart
Be easy on yourself
I know that you’re trying hard

To be happy and productive
To be organized, effective
I know you’re trying to make a difference
So let me just say this

Here’s a sticker ’cause you woke up
Here’s another’ cause you got dressed
Here’s a round of applause ’cause you didn’t break down
Here’s a hug’ cause I know you tried your best

Before you go to sleep
Think of the lessons that you learned today
Make a goal and persevere
Tomorrow will be better than yesterday

Adjusting vs. Adapting

What is the difference between adjusting and adapting?

I ask because 2020 has been something else, for everyone, and at the beginning of March, I was optimistic that this would only be for a month. As we near the middle of August, it seems as if things will never go back to the way they were. So much has happened this year. Memes have been made about 2020 being a very difficult year. What with the pandemic, the collapsing economy, and everything else that happened, it feels like we’re standing in the middle of rubble and we have no idea how to rebuild or where to start.

This brings me to the question of the day: Should we adapt or adjust? Human beings are known for their ability to adapt and evolve, some more than others, but what does it mean to adapt? Adaptation involves modifying something for a new purpose, while adjustment is simply making small changes, like turning the volume on the radio.

If we were to adapt to this new world, what does that mean exactly? It means finding out what the world needs most from us and focusing on that. We have a new purpose, to rebuild, to ensure that our children aren’t traumatized by everything that happened this year, to serve our communities the best that we can.

In normal circumstances, we would adjust our routine, wake up earlier, exercise more, eat healthier, do small things everyday that would bring us closer to our goals. We still need to do that, but in addition, we must adapt and renew ourselves. The world does not revolve around us, and we must do our best to ensure the future of our children in this unpredictable world.

Try to be thoughtful, polite, compassionate, and rewarding. A compliment and a ‘thank you’ can go a long way.

https://healthmatters.nyp.org/how-to-adjust-to-the-new-normal/

Are you adapting well to the new norm?