What I’m working on

Hello and welcome to my blog! How are you doing today? It’s amazing how wordy I get once my creativity isn’t trapped in themes, but themes are important for the organization of my blog. Nobody wants to read incoherent thoughts and all over the place ideas.

Today I thought I’d share what I’ve been working on, not just in terms of writing, but in all of my goals. There are also things I want to work on but my plate is too full. I will tell you what I want to work on but can’t, to get it out of the way.

If you have been reading my blogs, you’ll know that the 1st 2 chapters of my kindle Vella are out, and I want to write at least 3 more chapters, but I’m working on so many other things. It’s frustrating because I already wrote the outline for the entire book, and I even reread the outline a few days ago and was immediately inspired to write chapter titles for the rest of the book. It’s the details I choke on. The details are what make a book. Focusing on the 5 senses to make your reader feel like they are in the book, perhaps even make them feel like the main character. Then there is the description of scenes and items and the sunrise and such. I need to clear my head to write this novella. It doesn’t help that I lack the confidence to write it. It took me 9 years of writing poetry to begin publishing my poetry books. And even now, I still feel cringe about my older poems. I have only recently begun publishing self-help books, but only because they were highly appreciated on the blog. Talking about myself has always been easy, so the autobiographies (though I had to censor most of them and strip them down from most of their content to protect my family’s privacy) were easy to write. But I’ve never written fiction before. This is hard, but it is something I must do, but it’s on the bottom of my priorities though I feel most passionate about it.

Now let me tell you what I have been working on to distract myself from the crisis in Lebanon and to control my anxiety and depression:

Healthwise, the goal is to take more walks, exercise daily, drink 1 L of water a day, go to sleep at 11 pm, eat fruits and veggies daily, shower 4 times a week, brush my hair 4 times a week, and brush my teeth daily.

So far I’ve reached my goal in showering and brushing my hair, so as you can tell, I have a lot of work to do.

As parenting goes, I’m trying to spend one on one time with my son, even if it is just for 5 minutes. I’m also supposed to be studying with him the rest of his kg3 curriculum before he heads on to the 1st grade.

We made a boredom jar 2 weeks ago, and we are doing various activities, from board games to play-doh to blindfolding him and having him feel and taste food and guess what it is. We even did word searches and “All about me” collages. Sadly, he wants me to do these activities with him, and lately, I’ve been exhausted and restless. My son isn’t driving me crazy, but I’m emotionally tapped out. As for studying, his going to camp and karate classes are making him tired and in the afternoon, my mental abilities are shot, so we only have Friday to study since Saturday and Sunday are family days.

Spiritually, I’m working on my prayers and reading Quran.

Financially, the goal is simply to stop spending all my money on junk food.

The prices have solved that for me. Prices are 10 times the prices they were a year ago.

Socially, as I have noticed myself being withdrawn, even from my family, I planned on texting 2 friends a day, calling a friend per week, calling my grandma once a week, and visiting my grandma once a month.

I’m trying, but I’m not there yet. I still feel like avoiding everyone while craving social connection.

My reading goals are simply to read blogs whenever I can and read from a book or pdf book daily.

I’m trying not to think of how many books I have to read but focus on one book at a time. It’s working. Yesterday I finished one of the books I was reading.

Finally, my writing goals can be divided into 2: working on my books (editing existing books to unpublish and republish, typing new books, promoting published books by creating canva designs and posting on Instagram and Twitter), and working on my blogs (writing blogs and creating canva designs for the cover photos).

So far so good.

Of course, I’m not even writing housework as part of my goals. I keep track of the housework I do on my calendar but I can’t add it to the list of 22 goals because that would be too overwhelming.

My ultimate goal is to create a balance between my mind, body, and soul. I want to thrive as a mother and as a writer while keeping myself happy and healthy. Happy people don’t shoot their husbands. They just don’t! (comment below if you have seen the movie legally blonde)

What are you currently working on?

Transformation Tuesday: My goals for June 2021

Hello and welcome to my blog! It’s the 1st day of June. Can you believe it?

The pandemic has been going on for 15 months, we’re almost halfway through 2021, and the world is so chaotic right now. I don’t know about you, but when I feel like everything is out of my control, I panic. Then I take a deep breath, list the things I’m grateful for, and set down monthly goals, and focus on those because if I want to change the world, I must work on myself first and foremost.

I made 20 goals this month. I know it sounds too much and overwhelming, but in my attempt to create a balance between getting on top of my reading and writing, tending to my family and household, while taking care of my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well being, there is a lot of ground to cover.

I realized that physical, mental, and emotional well-being is all interconnected. When you’re feeling depressed, you feel physically tired and it affects your diet and sleep. Also, when you stay up late and eat a lot of junk food, you feel groggy and moody. The following goals are for the sake of my whole well being:

  • Shower 3 times a week
  • Control my anger
  • Do optimism challenge
  • Sit on the balcony or take a walk (get sunlight) daily
  • Exercise daily for 7 minutes
  • Brush teeth and hair daily
  • Drink 1 L of water daily
  • Eat 1 portion of fruit daily

As for my reading goals, I have 9 books I have abandoned months ago, and this month I plan on tackling 2 of them (the pdfs on my laptop) before I continue with the 7 paperbacks on my bookshelf. I’m also really behind on reading blogs so that’s one of my goals as well, to catch up on reading blogs.

As for my writing goals, the goal is to write at least 1 blog post a day, except on Wednesday, and to promote my most recent 3 books (I can’t promote all 10 books at once).

For my spiritual wellbeing, my goal is to pray duha 3 times a week and read 10 pages of Quran a day.

Socially, since I’ve become a hermit, I plan on texting at least 2 friends a day, so they know I’m still alive. I also plan on calling my grandmother once a week and visiting her once a month.

This is without housework, taking care of my son, sleeping, eating, cooking, etc.

I hope I’m able to achieve at least half of these goals. Most of them are habits I’m trying to implement so it’s hard to narrow them down.

What are your goals for June 2021?

Pros and cons of drinking coffee

Are you a coffee person or a tea person?

I’m a coffee person for sure. I’m not talking about the spice pumpkin latte and cinnamon toast latte or whatever variaties exist. I’m not even talking about the coffee you brew at home. Rather, I drink instant Nescafe gold with a little bit of sugar and some low fat cow milk.

The common denominator in all coffees and black tea is caffeine. I’m sure there is something else in coffee that makes me dependant on it, because when I drink black tea, it doesn’t wake me up like coffee does. The smell of coffee on its own revives me. It also helps lessen my appetite, and I need that, being stuck at home with nothing to do but to eat.

Caffeine has many benefits, but too much caffeine has its drawbacks as well. So what are the pros and cons of caffeine? And how much caffeine is too much?

Pros

  • Today, most people use it and other caffeinated beverages to keep awake and alert—but caffeine has a slew of other health benefits.Cognitive performance.
  • Burning fat.
  • Post-exercise recovery.
  • Atrial fibrillation.
  • In observational studies, caffeine intake has been linked to a lower risk of Parkinson disease.

Cons

  • Anxiety.
  • Insomnia.
  • Digestive Issues.
  • Muscle Breakdown.
  • Addiction.
  • High Blood Pressure.
  • Rapid Heart Rate.
  • Fatigue.

How much caffeine is healthy?

For healthy adults, the FDA has cited 400 milligrams a day—that’s about four or five cups of coffee—as an amount not generally associated with dangerous, negative effects. Healthy as in they don’t have heart problems or high blood pressure or anxiety. These conditions lower the healthy limit of caffeine in these individuals.

Different sources online give different quantities

If you are experiencing any drawbacks from coffee, you can replace it with black tea.

I read that eating an apple or drinking water helps wake you up without giving you the side effects of caffeine, but for me, only Nescafe caffeine wakes me up. Maybe it’s psychological. I don’t know.

The problem with having too many goals

I have a problem. I get really excited for self improvement, so I download so many ebooks and apps and podcasts, then when I get all over the place, I get really overwhelmed and I give up.

The funny thing is that 10 years ago, I took a course in Goal Setting. I still have the papers from the course (though I never reread them). I think I even got a certificate for attendance, but I have no idea where I put it.

The 1st rule to goal setting is writing your goals down. So I did that just now, and I was shocked by how many things I’m working on right now. No wonder I feel overwhelmed.

There are so many things I’m trying to do and so many things I’m trying to improve all at once, it’s scary!

But I decided to try to focus on a few at a time. I won’t share my goals here because I recently watched a youtube video that said that statistics say that when you talk about your goals, you’re less likely to achieve them, and if you know me, you know I take the internet at face value, so let’s see what happens. I’ll check in about this on December 1st. Remind me in the comments if I forget, as I probably will.

So whatever you’re working on, write your goals down, don’t work on too many goals at a time, and check in with yourself every month to see how much you have accomplished of your goals. Also a good idea is to categorize your goals (I love categorizing) into health, work, hobbies, spiritual, family, social, etc.