Hello and welcome to my blog! If you have been reading my blogs lately, you’d know that I was getting really tired and cranky because I’m fasting. That’s why it was really important to me to do this 21 day positive mindset challenge. As soon as I saw it, I knew I needed it.
We are going through tough times in general (I’m doing fine, thanks for asking) and the mind has the ability to overthink and go into negative rabbit holes of anxiety, depression and paranoia. So I tried this positive mindset challenge and I won’t say it transformed me into a rainbow and sunshine person, but it really helped me battle my inner demons (hopelessness and despair).
Here’s your guide of 21 days to a more positive mindset
Practice smiling. Smile at strangers, in the mirror, smile whenever you can! You’ll feel so much more positive.
I hadn’t realized how much I had been using my poker face or frowning until I saw the challenge. It made me very aware of my facial expressions.
Appreciate the little things today. Someone’s smile, the sunset, your morning coffee, the warmth of a sun ray, the sky.
I often do this from time to time but it was a great reminder to slow down and appreciate the details and I carried this practice with me throughout the whole challenge.
Instead of thinking ‘my life is horrible’, think ‘things aren’t great at the moment, but this will pass. Better days are coming!’
I’ve beendoing this for some time through the gratitude app. Everyday, they send me a quote, a thought challenge a blog post, a gratitude story and an affirmation. However, I haven’t been able to tap into the application lately because I was busy so the thought challenge followed me here, thankfully!
Rather than thinking of the horrible things that might happen, consider the great things that could come from your current situation.
I often fear worst case scenarios and panic. Sometimes it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel or to feel that things could actually get better. This was a nkce reminder of a more positive alternative future.
Instead of saying ‘I give up’, say ‘this is hard but I’m going to keep trying’.
Consistency isn’t my strong suit (I fluctuate between extremes) but perseverance is what brought me far into my goals and it does pay off.
Stop caring for what other people think. The thoughts of other people are not designed to make you happy and positive.
I wish I could actually implement this in my life. There is this part of me that always seeks approval because I have always felt like I did not fit in. Part of me wants to be liked and admired and valued. This was an important reminder that “I am therefore I have value” and not wait for others to validate me. It’s a work in progress.
Instead of thinking ‘why is this happening to me?’, Think ‘ what is this teaching me?’
This is a very important teaching and I’ve heard it in many inspirational talks.
Trust that better things are coming if you’re open to the possibilities.
Hope in a better future is vital for a healthy mind.
Instead of thinking ‘I can’t do this’, think ‘I don’t know how to do this YET’.
I once read a blog post that said whenever you think that you can’t do something, add YET to the end of the sentence. It makes a big difference.
Don’t compare yourself to anybody else today. It’s a total waste of time.
Deleting instagram for a week helped with that. I feel like instagram is the homeroom of comparisons. There’s a competition about who can make their life look more glamorous.
Remember, even if you can’t control a certain situation, you can control your response.
Struggle if my life. This is a great reminder that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you deal with it. So respond rather than reacting.
Meditate. This will help you with overthinking, lowers your stress and can help you to be more positive.
I was working on meditation from January until March of 2021, but I did neglect it a bit until I saw this reminder. I still don’t meditate daily because it’s nit in my bullet journal, but I do meditate occasionally and I am getting better at sitting still while I’m meditating.
Practice positive self talk. You can use positive affirmations with your meditation.
My affirmations are:
I am strong
I am smart
I am kind
I am beautiful
I am confident
I am assertive
I am brave
I am loved
Start or end your day writing your gratitude journal.
I wrote a gratitude log prior to ramadan. Remembering what I wrote was a great reminder.
Surround yourself with people you love and who love you back.
I have my husband and son, and my siblings and parents. I also have a few good friends. What mire could I ask for?
Listen to music. Music can have a positive effect on your health and day.
Practice acceptance. Appreciate everything you have right now.
This was hard, because I’m propelled to try to change what I don’t like. Serenity prayer comes in handy here.
Listen to an inspirational youtube video/podcast (like ‘The Happier Podcast’). Fill your brain with motivation.
Or the Happy Times Podcast by Joey Kidney. Or Kayln’s Coffee Talk by Kayln Nicholson. Or even The Science of Happiness or Pick the Brain Podcast. I actually watched inspirational YouTube videos for an hour or so.
List 5 things that made you smile today.
- Making crepes for my son
- Seeing my son eat the crepes
- Painting with my son
- Making a banana cake
- My son’s cousin hugging me
Instead of saying ‘I failed’, say ‘Mistakes help me learn’.
Limit social media time. Spend more time creating and working on yourself than consuming other people’s content.
To do this challenge, go to: https://21dayschallengeapp.com/app/challenge