Motivational Monday: Start your week off right!

Why do we hate Mondays so much?

I know the weekends are fun and weekdays are all work and no fun, but it doesn’t have to be that way!

So how can we start our week off right to beat the Monday blues?

Make a weekly plannar. Planning your week ahead of time decreases the overwhelm of your workload.
Meditate Sunday night so you can go to sleep with a positive feeling.
Exercise Monday morning to boost your energy.
Take breaks throughout the day.
Prioritize your tasks so you do the most 3 important tasks 1st.
Divide your big tasks into smaller parts.
If you still feel the Monday blues, listen to some upbeat music or a motivational podcast as you work.

That’s it for today’s motivational Monday.

What do you do to beat the Monday blues?

Self-reflection Sunday: Write 10 things you love about yourself

Hello 👋 reader and welcome to my blog!

Today I’m going to attempt to find 10 things I love about myself. I have low self confidence and I usually focus on my flaws more than my attributes.

So this is my self reflection practice of the week.

It’s part of the self confidence challenge on the app 21 days challenge.

1. I love the way I draw. I don’t exactly like to draw, but when I draw for my son, I feel proud of my work.

2. I love how self aware I am. Even though this leads me to be very self critical, it provides a lot of insight into why I am the way I am.

3. I love that I’m good at poetry. Poems come to me effortlessly, and that is a gift I don’t take for granted.

4. I love how organized I am. I know there are people who take organization to a different level by getting bins for that purpose, but I am organized nontheless.

5. I love my thirst for knowledge and research and learning new skills. I’m always working on myself and sharpening my skills and developing new ones. A few months ago, a friend of mine suggested I make images with writing on them and I thought I couldn’t do it, but then I found canva and I’ve been practicing on and off ever since (head over to my instagram to see my newest designs).

6. I love how tolerant I am to pain. I live with chronic pain, from migraines to knee pain to muscle spasms to bloating… Sometimes it’s a bad thing because I push myself too hard, but I imagine if I wasn’t tolerant to pain, I’d be bedridden half the time.

7. I love my fashion sense. I’m not much into fashion but I do like how I dress, even though some people don’t like it but I dress simply and casually but neatly and modestly and I like my choice of colors.

I got stuck here and I started asking my husband and son what they loved about me but they got nothing 😂 (shows how much they love me)

8. I love how I am caring and empathetic to people and what they go through. (got this from Google but it’s true)

9. I love how I get out of bed everyday and get things done, no matter how I’m feeling. (also help from Google but it’s true)

10. I love how I’m able to be strong in difficult situations like in someone’s death or illness. (I fall apart for the smallest reasons but I’m a rock with the big stuff) (I also kind of had some help from Google but it is true)

Ok, your turn

Write 10 things you love about yourself in the comments below, or on your phone or in your journal.

All you need is LOVE!

Hello 👋 reader and welcome to my blog! Thank you so much for tuning in to read about my thoughts and feelings and my ideas about the world.

If you’re familiar with my blogs, you’d notice I’m into psychology and everything about the self (self care, self improvement, self love, self reflection) and so today I have come to an important realization.

I have come to this realization time and time again but as humans do, I tend to forget and pine after what I don’t have and forget to apreciate what I do have.

What I have noticed today after interacting with a few friends and my sister is that I felt loved. I don’t feel this everyday. My mood fluctuates a lot and sometimes throughout the day. For example, I got angry several times today, even enraged a couple of times. But right now, I just feel loved. I don’t know how else to describe it.

That brought me to the realization that all we need and all we ever needed was love. To love and be loved.

Whether you’re a sibling or parent or child or friend, all you need is LOVE.

I know it sounds corny, but hear me out. No matter how much money you have or how many things you buy or how much entertainment you fill your time with, it all comes down to who you love in your life and who loves you.

Rich or poor, married or single, old or young, we all need someone to care for, and someone who will care for us. In the end, we are only truly happy when we have someone who laughs at our jokes, listens to our stories, reassures us that we’re not crazy when we talk about our pain.

Even children, I’ve read about it so many times, don’t need elaborate parties and toys. They need someone to sit with them and tell them that they love the way they draw and love them no matter what.

In this world, the miserable people are the ones who need the most love but don’t know how to ask for it, and the unhappy people are the ones who truly and utterly feel ALONE.

So in this holiday season, though I don’t celebrate Christmas, I wish everyone happiness, health and togetherness. I hope you are all giving and receiving tenderness, love and care from your families and friends.

May your holidays be filled with LOVE!

Go ahead and spread kindness like confetti 🎊

Maturity comes with the acceptance of responsibility

Forgiveness is the sign of maturity.
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Definition of maturity

Maturity is when you live your life by your commitments, not by your feelings. Every new experience brings its own maturity and a greater clarity of vision.

Types of maturity

There is mental (cognitive), physical, and emotional maturity. During one’s lifetime, there are many types of maturation. But the two most important kinds of maturity during childhood are physical and cognitive maturation.

When you become physically mature, you become an adult. However, not all adults are “mature”. In fact, most of them aren’t. Have you heard the saying “growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional”?

Emotional maturity is growing up by working on your personal development. It’s learning not to take things personally and responding to negative people assertively rather than passive-aggressively. It’s facing your problems rather than running away from them or ignoring them. It’s being able to agree to disagree with someone else without disrespecting them.

Age of maturity

While physical maturity occurs around puberty, cognitive maturity occurs at about the age of adolescence (between 13 and 17, but some argue that women’s brains mature at 32 while men’s brains don’t mature until the age of 43) when the brain is fully developed. However, thanks to neuroplasticity, you can always improve your mental maturity by lifelong learning.

When it comes to emotional maturity, age never defines it. It can only define how old a person is physically but it cannot measure how wise or how mature a person is. Age brings maturity and makes one wise because of one’s hardships and experiences throughout the person’s lifetime.

Signs of maturity

Realizing how much you don’t know.
Listening more and talking less.
Being aware and considerate of others as opposed to being self-absorbed, self-centered, and inconsiderate.
Not taking everything personally, getting easily offended, or feeling the need to defend, prove, or make excuses for yourself.

Importance of maturity

Maturity improves the ability to make good decisions. And with wise choices comes more stability in your life overall. Gone is the flurry of bad relationships, iffy decisions, wild nights out and horrible jobs. As you settle down, life becomes that much more stable and, consequently, easier to handle.

Assessment of your maturity

Behaviors are easily observable and practically every person is naturally attuned to them to some degree. Most people are quick to judge a person’s maturity. After only seconds one can assess to a degree how mature a person is simply by observing how they act, or how they express themselves verbally.

I just took a quiz to assess my maturity level (click here to test your maturity level).

How to increase your maturity

Check your ego at the door. Maintaining relationships is more important than being right.
Be in the moment.
Increase self-discipline.
Develop personal responsibility. Apologize and make amends when you make a mistake, but don’t beat yourself up over it.
Be a victor. Don’t act like a victim of life’s circumstances or like you are helpless to your surroundings.

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How environmentally friendly are you?

I did a quiz yesterday, and basically they ask you a few questions to see how much you know about being environmentally friendly.

Before I share my results, I will tell you what I think I know about what being environmentally friendly is:

Relying on natural light as much as possible, and not turning on lights unnecessarily. ☑️
Trying not to use electrical devices as much as possible. ❎
Using renewable sources of energy eg. solar energy to heat your water ☑️
Not using lead in your petrol ⛽ when you fill your car ☑️
Putting a filter on the exhaust of your car to prevent emission of toxic gases ☑️
Not dumping wastes into the sea or ocean or rivers ☑️
Reuse, reduce and recycle ☑️☑️❎

Obviously, the ☑️ are things I do and the ❎ are the things I don’t do.

So I feel if I share my results as they are, I’d be giving the answers to the quiz away. Instead, I’ll list my take home messages from this quiz

Reducing plastic use is very important
Reducing meat intake is more important (good thing I don’t eat much meat, but I do eat meat)
Relying on natural sunlight and not leaving the lights on is important
Reducing the use of other electrical appliances is more important (I need to work on that)
Switching to a hybrid car is a great idea (if you can afford it)

That’s all I have for now. I hope I didn’t give away too much from the quix. I got 2 wrong and 2 right in the quiz. Can you do better?

What are you doing to be more environmentally friendly?

Things that make me high

Have you ever heard of dopamine (happiness hormone) fasting? I was watching this YouTube video once about how we are constantly feeding ourselves dopamine fixes and that is why, after a while, they stop working, and the things that used to make us happy stop making us happy. Which is why we should, once a year, do a dopamine fast, meaning don’t do any of the things that make us feel elated/high/very happy for 24 hours to reset our dopamine receptors. I feel like I should try that sometime, but I doubt I’d do it willingly.

I have too many dopamine fixes, some of which are:

Tv shows
Movies
Books
Blogging
Coffee
Photography
Posting on instagram
Getting views on my blog
Getting likes on instagram
Walking
Chocolate
Carbs
Hugs
Nature
And so much more

This means that if I were to go on a dopamine fast, I would have to lock myself in a room, no phone, no laptop, no pen or paper, eating nothing but salad for 24 hours. Sounds worse than rehab to me.

What are your dopamine fixes?
Would you do a dopamine fast?

5 tips for a more organized life

1. Make your bed. This is really simple but very important. Making your bed prevents you from sleeping back in it, but also, even if you haven’t cleaned the room, making the bed makes the room look so much tidier.

2. Clear your desk. They say this in all the tips for productivity, because being organized is proportional to being productive. Don’t leave too many things lying around on your desk, too many papers, etc.

3. Don’t leave dishes in the sink. This sounds like a cleanliness tip, and it is, but it’s also about organizing. The sight of a full sink is distracting and disturbing and unorganized, at least to me. The sight of an empty sink, though. Bliss. I know it’s difficult to keep up with housework when you have young kids, but at least try to keep up with the dishes. Laundry as well. Same effect.

4. Use it, or give it away. Don’t buy clothes just because they’re on sale. Don’t accumulate clothes in your closet that you’re not going to wear. A good strategy I learned about how to know which clothes we don’t wear and need to give away (because some people, like me, tend to just wear the same 5 outfits in the front of the closet) at the beginning of the month, organize your closet, and everytime you wear something, put it aside so you know you wore it. At the end of the month, the clothes you didn’t wear (except the ones for special occasions, those should be organized yearly) are the ones you should give away. Same goes with things that are not clothes, like makeup and perfumes and stuff. Less is more.

5. Categorize. This is my favorite. My son learned to categorize from me. He has all his toys color coded. He has his animals categorized by type. I happen to think he goes a step too far, but categorizing papers for example (my sons papers are categorized as well. Paw patrol coloring is separate from lion gaurd coloring and so on. Drawings are in a different pile than paintings for example) is really important and can help you find what you need when you’re looking for it.

Remember, these are tips for being more organized, as in tidy. If you want tips to be more productive, click here.

Favorite inspirational and motivational movies

I am inspired by books, nature, movies, and so much more.

Today I’m writing the top 10 most inspiring movies.

I have watched all these movies except one and they have each taught me valuable life lessons. Into the wild is the only one I haven’t watched but I’ve heard so many good things about the book and I’m looking forward to watching the movie. Here are the titles and quotes from the movies.

1. The pursuit of happyness starring Will Smith

You got a dream. You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it.

2. The blind side starring Sandra Bullock

Courage is a hard thing to figure. You can have courage based on a dumb idea or mistake, but you’re not supposed to question adults, or your coach or your teacher, because they make the rules. Maybe they know best, but maybe they don’t. It all depends on who you are, where you come from.

3. Stronger starring Jake Gyllenhaal

Admitting your limitations and accepting help makes you stronger too.

4. Eddie the Eagle starring Hugh Jackman

I may be in last place, it may have been a poor jump, but everyone seems to be pleased. Why? Because of the Olympic ideal – ‘The most important thing is not to win but to take part, just as the most important thing in life is not the triumph but the struggle

5. Into the Wild

6. Moneyball starring Brad Pitt

If you challenge conventional wisdom, you will find ways to do things much better than they are currently done.

7. Coach Carter starring Samuel L. Jackson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

8. The Butterfly Effect starring Ashton Kutcher

It has been said that something as small as the flutter of a butterfly’s wing can ultimately cause a typhoon halfway around the world.

9. The Judge starring Robert Downey Jr.

The law is the only thing capable of making people equal.

10. The Truman Show starring Jim Carrey

We Accept The Reality Of The World With Which We’re Presented. It’s As Simple As That.”

I hope you liked the quotes from these movies. I am yet to watch Into the Wild.

Which of these movies have you watched?

What other inspirational movies do you recommend?

How confident are you?

Self confidence is an important trait that is needed for success.

It is something that if nurtured in childhood, thrives. Otherwise, it suffers through adulthood.

Someone who was taught to love themselves and be confident will have better faith in their abilities, better social relationships, and will be more successful.

When you are confident, it means you believe in yourself. You believe you are worthy of love, attention and success. You don’t people please. You don’t say negative things about yourself like “I’m so lazy or stupid” or whatever it is you think you are.

But being confident does not mean being arrogant. It does not mean thinking you are better than other people. It means that you have a set of attributes you are proud of, you know your strengths and use them for your benefit, and you love yourself enough to respect yourself and not let anyone disrespect you.

Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities in a realistic, secure way. It’s a quiet inner knowledge that you’re capable. Confident people feel ready for everyday challenges like tests, performances, and competitions.

If you are low on self confidence because you were bullied at school or ridiculed at home, there are ways to boost your self confidence:

Visualize yourself as you want to be. Imagine what it would feel like to be confident. Read about confident leaders and how they talked, walked, and presented themselves. Practice in front of a mirror. Give a speech to an imaginary audience.
Affirm yourself. Affirmations don’t work for everyone, but if they work for you in other areas in your life, then they will work here. Tell yourself nice things. Instead of telling yourself “I’m so lazy” say “I will finish my tasks early so that I can be carefree later and not worry about being productive”.
Do one thing that scares you every day. Confident people step out of their comfort zone everyday. I know it feels safer in your bubble, but in the long run, you will regret not trying, not standing up for yourself, not taking risks. So write down all the things you want to do but are too afraid. Do one of them everyday. Whether it’s learning how to drive or applying for that job you always wanted or even simple things like participating in a social setting or calling someone you’ve been scared to reach out to.
Set yourself up to win. When you don’t try, you are setting yourself up to lose. So prepare for that exam, practice that sport. Whatever it is that you want to do, prepare beforehand so that when the day comes, you’re ready to win. If you don’t prepare, then give a presentation and flunk, it will further damage your self confidence. So prepare the material, give the presentation in front of family and friends, relax, and try your best.
Help someone else. Helping others is a great way to give back and feel good about yourself. When you help someone, it helps you see that the world does not revolve around you, and all the pressure you put on yourself loosens a little bit.
Care for yourself. Self care is a practice of self love. Confident people shower, wear clean clothes, and do things that make them happy.

There are many ways to work on your self confidence. There are so many books out there with tips and tricks. One thing you need to know is that the core of self confidence is knowing your worth.

How to deal with circumstances out of your control

Happy Friday!

Not so happy, I know…

What with COVID-19 worsening, collapsing economy, and don’t get me started on the Beirut explosion and the aftermath of that!

There are 2 types of people in this situation. There are those who have initiative, who are getting donations moving and making things happen, and there are those who need a push, a tug, or a pull.

This blog is for the ones who feel helpless, like everything is out of their control. It’s not something to be ashamed of, but rather something to be aware of, and to work on overcoming.

Since I don’t have the answers, because I fall in this category sometimes, I did a little research. I will list a few ways to deal with this feeling of overwhelm, and at the end you will find the links to my sources, if you want to read the original articles, which I didn’t even read, by the way. I just copied the pinpoints.

Here are ways to deal with circumstances/situations out of your control:

Determine what you can control (Mindset, Work ethic, The way you treat others, Wellness, Language) and focus on that. Choose to wake up early, exercise, eat healthy, be positive. You always have a choice.
Identify your fears, challenge them, work to overcome them. Read and practice. Get help if you need it.
Concentrate on your influence. You do have an influence. Your words and actions matter to some people, so make sure you leave footprints wherever you go.
Differentiate between ruminating and problem-solving. Don’t sulk and sleep all day. Find a way to help. Do something. Share a post. Donate a dollar. Talk to a friend. No act of kindness goes to waste.
Create a stress management plan. When you feel your stress levels rising, focus on self care. Read a book. Watch a movie. Turn off the news. Sleep. Then when you feel better, get up and make a difference!
Develop healthy affirmations. These don’t work for everyone, but you can try applocations, sticky notes, printouts,… Whatever works for you.

Imagine what a role model or admired friend would do in the same situation. Having someone to look up to is really important.
Write down your thoughts. Writing can help you organize your thoughts, and release the negative ones. Whether you crumble the piece of paper after you write or if you keep it as a note on your phone, or post it, is up to you.
Talk to others about how you’re feeling. There is a certain power in being vulnerable. Opening up, sharing your perspective, gaining insight. You must choose a trusted friend, not just anyone.
The paradox of control. The more we try to control things the less control we will experience.
Accentuate the positive. Look on the bright side of every situation. Sometimes it’s hard to find, but keep looking.
Stay mindful and breath. Practice breathing exercises. Guided meditation helps.
Visualize your desired outcome. This helps in achieving your goals, but also in times of crisis.
Keep a sense of humor. Yes, memes help. Not always. Sometimes you need to cry and be sad and angry, but sometimes you need to let loose and not take life too seriously.

Takeaway message :

Rather than passively dealing with the situation, take initiative, and do it with confidence. Know that you have control over what you say and how you react. Take action. Rather than feeling victimized and helpless, do something.

Forbes, Here are six ways to stop stressing about the things you can’t control

Reachout, How to cope when things feel out of your control

Youhaveacalling: Free Yourself By “Letting Go” of What You Can’t Control

Medium: But there are some things in life that you can control.

Huffpost: How to take control of a situation