The pandemic has affected different people in different ways.. but for most of us, I can say with some confidence , that it has made us homebodies. We have realized there’s a certain joy in working from home dressed in our old, worn out tee and PJs and we ain’t getting out of them any […]
Just read this post from one of my favotite mom bloggers and it resonated with me 💯
I live in a building with 10 floors and I don’t really know my neighbors. I’m an introvert with social anxiety, which makes it hard for me to take the initiative. Plus, I’m very selective who to socialize with. Also, from what I know, my neighbors aren’t very friendly, or they just don’t like us. However, 3 months ago, a new neighbor moved in next door on the same floor, but I’m yet to get to know her. I don’t even know her name.
She has knocked on my door twice panicking because of some emergency in her apartment, but otherwise, nothing. She leaves her house everyday at a certain time and comes back at a certain time. I assume she spends all day at her mom’s, who she told me lives nearby. She suggested I come visit her and I said sure, though I know I won’t make the initiative.
I’m hoping she’ll show up someday soon. I wanted to showup with cake when she 1st moved in but my husband advised against it. Did I mention my husband is an introvert and a homebody? I’m an introvert too and sometimes I feel like I’m turning into a homebody.
She seems sweet and she has 2 young children but I think she isn’t visiting because she is freaking out about covid. She also may be selectively social.
Anyway, I’m just hoping she reaches out soon. It would be nice to socialize, and I think this is the only neighbor of mine who is my age. All the others have kids who are grown and flown.
I mentioned recently in one of my blogs that I had a brief encounter with my new neighbor. It was awkward and I felt like I did all I could but she didn’t give me a chance to be more friendly.
Today, I saw her again. She was smiley but in a rush, and I actually chatted with her mom and got to know my neighbors kids. The thing is, my neighbors mom gave off the vibe that they had no interest in getting to know me, even though I was being very friendly.
I’m not under the impression that people automatically love me when they meet me. I’m very serious and socially awkward and I don’t smile as much as I used to before I got married and had a kid. However, when I put in the effort, I can be friendly. I don’t think it sounded strained but in conversations, I tend to be hyperfocused on body language and try to pick up on anysigns that the people I’m talking to don’t like me. Sometimes, due to anxiety, it’s all in my head. But in cases of meeting strangers, I usually share the conversation with someone else and get their feedback, and the feedback I got was that my neighbors mom was being unfriendly. I can’t say much for my neighbor because I saw her very briefly, during which she was sweet and acknowledged my son (which is really important to me because her mom didn’t even acknowledge my son’s presence).
Anyway, I feel accomplished because I was friendly and pushed past my comfort zone. Whether or not I end up getting to know my new neighbor and maybe become acquainted with her…only time will tell, but I’m at the point in my life where I don’t beg for people to like me. I’m trying to be a nice friendly neighbor and if she likes me, great. If not, it’s her choice. I know I’m an interesting person and you can’t get to know me completely overnight. I’m still getting to know myself.